Last week I went to an event at my university - I don't think it was supposed to be romantic but it was. There were elegant tables set up and free coffee, and beautiful LIVE jazz music and a jazzy singer. Of course couples began to dance and gaze lovingly into each others eyes and clasp hands. YUK! My roommate and I found a table mostly empty except for one beautiful boy and we asked if we could sit there.
This boy had cute nerdy classes and brown eyes and brown shaggy hair. He was thoroughly enjoying the music and I must say he was adorable. I text some of my friends who were also at the event and asked if they knew the boy at the table I was at and if he was single. They said he was and they told me his name. In between songs I casually introduced myself and asked about his major, job, social security number (just kidding), etc.
He's single. He's a Christian. He's cute. He's graduated from college already. He has a place to live and a steady job. He loves missions and has already been over seas for a semester. He communicated well. He likes jazz music and coffee. WINNER!
My mom called me so I excused myself for a moment and went out to a hallway. I got teary eyed as I explained to her how everyone was dancing together and how I was SINGLE. I calmed down and hung up and went back to my table.
And then the most amazing thing happened. That boy. He looked at me and said "Would you like to dance with me?"
And of course I did. It was awful and we were stepping all over each other's feet and running in to things and giggling. But I loved it! We danced the entire song and then sat back down.
And that was it. We were done. We sat another thirty minutes until it was time to leave and then I said "Thank you for dancing with me!" And that was it. Done. Over. Nothing.
I may never see him again! He already graduated so I won't see him around campus. What's a girl to do? I WANT to give him my phone number and stalk him on facebook and send him a message and invite him to hang out sometime.
BUT I CAN'T.
Why? Because I'm the girl. Because I want a man who is a leader. Because I don't want to be the one who takes charge all the time. If he really really liked me he would have done something like found me on facebook (not hard to do because he knows where I go to school and some other friends sat with us who are friends in common so all he has to do is look at their pages and find me...I'm the only person in the whole world with my name...) He could have said "I hope to see you next time." Or "Yeah let's dance again next time." Or anything. But he didn't.